Re: [Lovers India] How to Argue Effectively & Win

thanks for your compliment....

On 2/22/11, Ali jamali <ali.jherk@gmail.com> wrote:
> very nice info,,,,,,,,,,,,,,thanks a billion gentlman
>
> On 2/21/11, Kartha 1980 <kartha1980@gmail.com> wrote:
>> thanks
>>
>> On Mon, Feb 21, 2011 at 3:26 PM, NAGA TUNA <ling.raj123@gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>>> *exilent*
>>>
>>> On Mon, Feb 21, 2011 at 12:54 PM, Kartha 1980
>>> <kartha1980@gmail.com>wrote:
>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> ---------- Forwarded message ----------
>>>> From: Pramod Ambady <pramodromeo@gmail.com>
>>>> Date: Mon, Feb 21, 2011 at 12:47 PM
>>>> Subject: How to Argue Effectively & Win
>>>> To:
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>>>> It can be difficult for people to get their point across without hurting
>>>> one another in the process. Here are some tips for effectively resolving
>>>> a
>>>> problem by stating your views, while being collected and reasonable.
>>>> Also
>>>> included are tips on winning an argument.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> *Stay calm & Keep a steady low tone.* The energy you give off is usually
>>>> picked up on by the other person; if you are calm they sense you mean no
>>>> harm and relax more. Even if you get emotional, try to keep your dignity
>>>> and
>>>> don't lash out unexpectedly. Also consider your tone of voice; try to
>>>> keep a
>>>> steady, low tone and volume, not fluctuating to much in speed and sound.
>>>> Try
>>>> to sound as relaxed as possible and avoid high-pitched sounds. Also
>>>> consider
>>>> your body language: have a good firm posture that makes your feel
>>>> powerful
>>>> but not agressive.
>>>>
>>>> *Don't insult the other person.* Avoid to, in any way, say something
>>>> that
>>>> might be taken as an insult. When people are angry they are much more
>>>> sensitive and will take even the smallest comment as an insult.
>>>>
>>>> *Express that you are willing to listen to the other person and respect
>>>> them.* Even though you might not agree with what the other person is
>>>> saying you need to remember that they might feel just as strongly about
>>>> their views as you do about yours.
>>>>
>>>> *Be reasonable.* The outcome of the argument might not be exactly what
>>>> you wanted, but never expect to get everything you want.
>>>>
>>>> Don't let it last too long, the argument degrades if it's held out.
>>>>
>>>> Allow each person to speak and make their point.
>>>>
>>>> *Set healthy boundaries.* If the person with whom you are arguing is
>>>> angry, obnoxious or verbally abusive, should you really be interacting
>>>> with
>>>> them? It may be better to walk away.
>>>>
>>>> If the argument is with a clerk, salesperson, etc. ask to speak with
>>>> their
>>>> supervisor. If a supervisor isn't immediately available, get a phone
>>>> number.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> *Winning an Argument -*
>>>>
>>>> *
>>>>
>>>> Think about the possible arguments for and against your side, and
>>>> the opposite side. If there is any major weakness in your argument, you
>>>> must
>>>> fill it before coming to a confrontation with the opposition, or risk
>>>> losing
>>>> the argument.
>>>> *
>>>>
>>>> Identify any major pitfalls your opponent can step into. A gentle
>>>> nudge here and there to get them to make some sort of fallacious
>>>> statement
>>>> that allows you to close the bear trap is psychologically damaging and
>>>> can
>>>> win an argument on the spot. Also try to take each argument to its
>>>> logical
>>>> conclusion.
>>>> *
>>>>
>>>> Always take full advantage of any illogicality or fallacy in your
>>>> opponent's argument. Return any illogical points with as many relevant
>>>> logical facts as possible, to completely quash their point. If this is
>>>> not
>>>> possible, take their point and use it in your favor logically.
>>>> *
>>>>
>>>> It's always possible to lose an argument, especially if your
>>>> argument has major weaknesses. Accept it if that the case. However,
>>>> arguments do sometimes come to standoffs, where no side is stronger than
>>>> the
>>>> other and nobody wins or loses. when this happens, learn to leave the
>>>> argument as nothing can be gained by continuing to confront your
>>>> opponent.
>>>> When this happens, don't lose control or get desperate.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> *Pramod Ambady*
>>>> * Romeo Never Dies *
>>>>
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